That blissful aura of January.
Goals, resolutions. Expectations.
As I have reflected back on 2010 I have had some profound realizations of what it means to be successful.
The humorous part of my year in review was looking at the goals that were not accomplished and asking myself what went wrong? Why did they not happen?
One of the common themes among the “failed” goals was disinterest and lack of personal motivation simply because it wasn’t the right goal for me. Yes. I just admitted that I set goals that were WRONG for ME. And that was a big reason for their failure.
In the competitive world that we live in, we have to make sure that the goals we set are
1. for our own good and not determined out of what we think others expect of us or what seems to be popular
2. That what we are working towards is really based out of the right motivation and is realistic for our current season of life.
In essence, we have to define what success is for ourselves within the realm of reality and our current circumstances.
And when I understand what my personal success definition is, I am more likely to recognize my own progress and less likely to judge myself unfairly against other people who’s definition of success is different and personal for them.
I can choose to feel like a failure of a professional photographer because I don’t have my own studio and I do not shoot a high volume of sessions, or I can remember that I have a one year old child whom I have chosen to be at home with and secretly really love not having any studio overhead, and intentionally want to shoot minimal professional sessions so I can maintain home/life balance and passion for my art.
My success definition might look something like this: Shoot 1 professional session a month and one personal creative session a month. It’s realistic, and fits in my current season of life circumstances. No, I’m not going to strike it rich on one session a month, but remember that my definition is mine only and not the worlds, not the school of business, not the wave of the industry, but mine.
My definition may totally change every year or even throughout the year. But when we define our goals according to what is measurable and attainable within our current circumstances and based out of our own personal needs rather than external hype and expectations, then we’re happier and can more easily recognize our progress.
Hooray for failure! 🙂 I learned to smarten up this year and am much happier in the pursuit of what is right for me.
What’s right for you?