Dealing with Disappointment
The past week has been quite painful. A project that I have poured my heart and soul into creating the last few months was rejected. I felt like my wildest hopes and dreams came crashing down into a million tiny pieces.
And cried some more..
And sulked a bit. And perhaps even raised my fist to the heavens asking “Why?! Why did this have to happen to me?!”
I wanted to just soak in my misery. It felt justifiable to go through a period of mourning and grief and I wanted to stay there.
Basking in the pain felt powerful enough that it might just resurrect my broken dream back into living reality.
But I knew I was living an illusion. And sad to say, that the rest of my life was suffering as a result and there needed to be a way out.
It was in this moment of initial acceptance that I recalled two very important questions that I learned recently in a class I took on Gratitude:
When faced with life challenges, simply ask yourself
1. What’s the best part?
2. What’s the worst part?
What’s the best part?
Not the most delightful question when you’re experiencing pain and disappointment. Amazingly, asking that question helped shift my perspective to see that there were things that happened from this experience that were good. Even if it was simply that I now had more time back in my schedule and more space in my head to focus on parts of my life that had been pushed to the back burner.
Whats the worst part?
Another powerful question. Because often times, the answer isn’t quite what we think it is. My first answers to this question actually made me laugh because what I thought was the worst of it–wasn’t actually true. It helped me get to the root of my suffering quickly and I began to pull out of my dispair.
Best Part/Worst Part is going to become part of my daily routine now. It helped me not only clarify my life, but remind me of this simple truth expressed eloquently by Alexander Graham Bell:
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” -Alexander Graham Bell
I’m finding the open doors. They are more plentiful than I once thought.
What helps you deal with disappointment?
Brooke Snow is a Lifestyle photographer in Cache Valley, Utah. She finds daily comfort in chocolate and brisk walks, enjoys cleaning the house, and her best ideas always come between the hours of 6:00-8:30 a.m.
Brooke teaches inspiring online photography classes that bring you confidence in your skills and creativity.
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