Ep. 107 Tiny Tip: Say “And”…


These tiny tip episodes are designed to give you one small thing you can do to be a better creator in your life. Each tip is inspired by an element found in the Law of Creation. Creation includes what we see, say, feel, and do, which leads to who we become. If you want a deep dive into the law of creation, check out my free course found in episodes 95-100 where I explain each part in glorious detail.

If there was a tiny change you could make in your vocabulary that would yield massive results, would you want to know about it? In this Tiny Tip we’re going to explore one small change you can make in what you SAY that will make you a better creator.

The tip? “Say AND, instead of BUT.”

This tip was shared with me many years ago and practicing it has made a lasting impact on my life experiences.

Often in our day to day conversations we will share one thought and inadvertently negate it when we connect a second thought using the word, BUT

For example…

I love you, BUT you need to clean your room.
I hear what you’re saying, BUT…I think xyz.
This work looks really good, BUT…it still needs to be improved by (fill in the blank)

You’ve likely experienced this a million times in your life.  The crazy thing is, it often doesn’t matter how good or true the first phrase was, as soon as we say BUT, it can feel like metaphorically those words are being crossed right out with a red pen.

Just yesterday I made a comment in a group discussion at church. Immediately afterward another person reiterated what I said in what seemed like agreement and then added a “but” to include her own perspective. That one word suddenly made my own contribution to the discussion seem invalid. Truth be told, both our perspectives contributed, yet it would have felt far more expansive to say, “and” instead of “but”. We do this far more than we realize and we constrict the energy of what is being said instead of expanding it.

I postulate that we could eliminate the word “but” from at least 80% of our conversations. It’s rarely helpful. There is an empowering shift that can happen when you choose to say AND instead.

Watch what happens…

I love you, AND you need to clean your room.
I hear what you’re saying, AND I think xyz.
This work looks really good, AND I think we can also improve it by (fill in the blank.)

The words we say are an essential element to creation. All words have an energy.

The word But has an energy of constriction.
The word And has an energy of expansion.

Make this tiny swap in your conversations, in your brainstorming, in your negotiations, in your parenting, in your discussions or debates, and you will bring a greater sense of unity and possibility to the experience.

This takes practice and with time you’ll notice the moment right before you’re about to say ‘but’. In the pause, remember to replace it with an ‘and’ and watch the energy expand.

Replace it with an “and” and watch the energy expand.

Today’s tiny creator tip: Say And, instead of But.

See it
say it
feel it
do it
become it

you are a creator, now go create something great.


What is the Law of Creation?
Check out my free series:
Ep. 95: How The Law of Attraction Fits In The Gospel
Ep. 96: Causing An Effect
Ep. 97: Spiritual Creation
Ep. 98: Physical Creation
Ep. 99: Opposition
Ep. 100: Repetition

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