How to Avoid the Stress of Wedding Photography

I have nothing but respect and admiration for wedding photographers. Their job is H-A-R-D. I’ve only shot around ten weddings in my photography career, but it was enough experience to understand that it was NOT something that I enjoyed.

My creativity and joy in photography are in greater abundance when I get to work in a relaxed and stress free environment. (This means that I am relaxed and stress free and SO ARE MY SUBJECTS ;)

Even though I retired from weddings in 2009, I still receive consistent wedding inquiries. Most of the time I regretfully decline and refer another fabulous photographer, but ever so often I suggest a possible alternative:

A portrait shoot in wedding attire.




This means that I get to photograph the bride and groom

  • On a low key day before/or after their wedding
  • In creative locations
  • During the best light of the day
  • Without a crowd of people around
  • Without a tight schedule
  • Without the extended family formal pictures that I dread
  • And a million other blessed differences that make me creative and happy.

Yes, this means they have to still find another photographer for the day of the wedding events.  It’s not the most efficient route.  But it makes me happy!

Business should be designed around what brings you joy.

I always believe that there are creative solutions to designing your business to eliminate the parts you dislike and emphasizing areas that you do like.  Business should not just serve your clients, but serve you too.  True synergy is when everybody is happy.

Perhaps this means restricting your availability to weekdays so you can spend your weekends with your family (I did this for years, and you’d be surprised how clients automatically adjust their availability to meet yours.)  Maybe it means you outsource your books to an accountant. Maybe (gasp!) it means that you could actually sell a CD of images because the thought of packaging/shipping prints and dealing with detailed orders and selection makes you want to die (that would be me!).

Business should not just serve your clients, but serve you too.  True synergy is when everybody is happy.

What can you eliminate to bring you more happiness?  I’d love to hear in the comments below!









 Congratulations to Becca & Bryan who were married last week, just a few days after our Bridal Portrait shoot :)


Brooke Snow is a Lifestyle photographer in Cache Valley, Utah.  She loves 6:45 a.m. and Blue Bunny all natural vanilla bean ice cream. Just not at the same time.

Brooke teaches inspiring online photography classes that bring you confidence in your skills and creativity.

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